Love and Relations

Love...love is a topic with so much depth to it and yet it is compromised of only four letters. L-O-V-E... What about these four letters put together make people go crazy? Now to that I do not have an immediate answer for, but these letters placed together make one of the strongest words in the English vocabulary.

To love someone is to give your all to them.

We know the scripture John 3:16, "for God so LOVED the world that He gave His only begotten Son..." God loved us so much that He gave His Son to save our lives. So this love thing is something serious. It is not to be taken lightly, especially when you decide that you are in love with someone else.

In love, you give a power to that other person. When you give your all to them because of love, there is no going back. This love doesn't have to be the physical love that you may be thinking of, but also your mind and soul. Giving this love to another person and sharing your world with each other is an experience that is deep within itself.

It's question time!
1. In your relationship, is there an even amount of give and take?
2. When you say, "I love you," can they look you in your eyes and say, "I love you" back?
3. When the two of you get together, are you able to be together without physical contact as an end result?
4. Are you able to just be with each other, not saying a word, and it be comfortable?


If you said no to one or more of these questions, it looks like there is some needed evaluation in your current relationship.

If you are putting in more work than your partner, ask yourself why. Love needs an equal balance because without that equality in it, you're just in love alone and they may be in "like" with you. That person liking you is completely different from you loving them. It has always been easy to tell if someone means what they are saying by their eyes. Next time you say that you love them, look to see the way it is being said back to you.

Sometimes love doesn't need words. That doesn't always mean to go ahead and get it on because you love each other. Sometimes it is nice to just be with that person you love. Get together with them and do homework together, cook dinner, go on a walk, or something! There are many ways to share your love with each other. I did mention that love was mind, body, AND soul, didn't I? Not mind OR body OR soul... Well if you missed it...love is mind, body and soul!

It says in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV), "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness."

With that scripture we learn, in a relationship standpoint, that we need to find someone that is equally yoked as us. If you are unaware of what a yoke is, it is a frame fitting the neck and shoulders of a person, for carrying a pair of buckets, one at each end. If one side has more water in the bucket, it makes it impossible for the person carrying it to walk. Think of it this way, you and your partner are buckets. If you are full but your partner is only half full, then the relationship [or person carrying the yoke] will have a hard time trying to walk, thus making instability in the relationship.


This is the part when you check not only your partner, but yourself. Don't worry, I'll wait...


Your love should include three people: you, your partner, and God. That is it! No more and no less than that. Simple? Why yes it is. God should be in the center of all you do; this includes relationships as well. A relationship without God is just two people trying to make something happen. If it is in God's will, then it is going to happen; if it's not His will, it won't work. It's important to not let others into your relationship as well. Your love and the love you share with your partner is not for anyone but you, your partner and God.


Well, I feel that I have said enough for now about this subject. I will leave you with this one thing, and I will be on my way: "Today I caught myself smiling for no reason...and then I realized I was thinking about you." [I know it's cheesy, but it's cute! :)]

On the Subject of Love...

"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Well, what is love?

This is one of the most talked about topics in the world. It's in songs, poems, movies, plays, book, etc. In the Bible we see there is a whole chapter dedicated to love and explaining what love is in 1 Corinthians 13. It is taught that you can have any spiritual gift and give all your possessions away, but without love, it means nothing. If you look on dictionary.com you will see the dictionary definition of love. As a noun there are fourteen different meanings alone. So where do we go from here? When talking about love, there are so many ways that I can go from here: family, friends, significant others, and everyday people.


I think I'll start with the everyday person. You're walking down the street and you see someone walking in the opposite direction drop there things. You rush to help them pick up the things that they dropped. This may be considered a good deed to some, but it is also a way to show love. 1 Corinthians 13:4 "...love is KIND..." To be kind to a stranger, is only but one way to show love; a love that is defined in the Bible.  Mark 12:31 says that we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves. You wouldn't hurt yourself intentionally, so why hurt others?



Loving your friends. A friend is someone who is supportive and will help keep you on the path that you need to be...even when you don't want them too. Although you may fight with your friend, you love them. How is this love different from loving the everyday person? Let's take the example from above. Your friend is walking in the opposite direction of you and you see them drop their things. You rush to help them pick up their items and then you walk back to their destination to make sure they won't drop their things again. You have now taken the love for a person you don't know and showed a stronger love. You didn't have to walk that friend to their destination, but because "love is patient", you took some time out of your day to be there for them. Now this is just a simple example and love transcends from helping with groceries, but to see the progression can be helpful.


Family! AAHH!!! What more can be said about them? If you know me, you know I love, Love, LOVE! my family...even when I don't like them, I love my family. Family is my passion, and the way to my heart is my family (and of course my God). The love that I show for my family is the love that I know they give back to me. I would do anything for them. "[Love] keeps no records of wrong" and "it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." I feel that this is pretty much self-explanatory. Protect family, trust family, and forgive and with that love will persevere. I could go on forever talking about family love, but like I said, it's my passion.


The significant other: what you've all been waiting for. So you love your boyfriend/girlfriend, but why? She/He makes you smile. She/He is cute. She/He likes the things you do. You just have this unexplained "connection" between the two of you. Or maybe you lack a true definition of love, and the only connection of love in your relationship is when you "make love". Let's take everything in consideration. Think about the your significant other and make a list of the things you like about them. Is your list looking a bit shallow? If it is, then it looks like some reevaluation is needed in your relationship. What drew you to this person? I hope that you know the person that you pretend to be will catch the eye of someone, but sooner or later they will see the real you. If you are not the person that you put on, and that love that was developed is not on a firm foundation, the relationship will be rocky and prone to fall.


Seeing how relationships with a significant others has so much to sift through, this will have to be continued later. "Love and Relations" on the way...


To end this subject of love I will end with this: 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NLT) "Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love."

We must start somewhere...

When it comes to life, we all have a starting point. Whether it is birth, a renewed life with God, a transition in schooling, or even a new life within a relationship, it all has a beginning. There are many steps in starting something new:

1. Have you thought it through? The only time we don't have an option in starting something new is in birth. An odd thought I know, but it's true. When I decided to start my life with Christ, it wasn't because everyone I knew was doing it. I chose a life with Him because He showed me the way. Trust me, I thought about it a lot!

2. Get the right attitude. There is no way that you can start something new or change yourself if you are thinking and acting the same way. When you are single, you are free to be single, and life that life. You can't act the same way or do the same things you did when you were single after you enter a relationship.

3. Consider your friends. Time and time again, we learn that not everyone in our life is meant to be there for a lifetime. This is what we call seasonal friends. Just as the seasons come and go, so do some friends. The hardest part of life is when you discover that someone you really connect with is only a seasonal friend. You must be strong and let go; they may be the thing that is holding you back from your blessing.

Jesus said, "I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly." John 10:10

Staring new isn't always easy. There are people from your past, things from your past, that try and bring you back down to where you used to be. You can take this post in the carnal realm or in the spiritual realm, as long as you understand life will not be a walk in the park always. Not to say life sucks, but sometimes it takes work. We must find the things in life that make it worth living. In a new life, those things will be different that what they were before.

With that, I will leave you with one more thing: "Laugh as much as you breathe, love as long as you live"